Instead, I choose to fill the absence left behind in other ways. The questions I can’t ask the dead, I ask the living. Will this make their deaths any more knowable, any easier to grasp? I doubt it. But having conversations with my mother and father now means I won’t regret not having after they are gone. And perhaps that is enough.
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