Valentine’s Day is less than a week away, but there is still time to show your love how much you care.
The days leading up to Feb. 14 are often filled with anxiety about buying the perfect gift, but they do not have to be.
Marie Hegeman, a licensed certified social worker at APC/Hegeman: EAP and Counseling Services in Oneonta, said the gift does not have to be traditional, as long as it is meaningful for both of you.
“If it’s something significant and sentimental, it doesn’t have to be a card, candy or flowers,” she said.
So what does your partner want for Valentine’s Day? Chances are your love has recently given you hints about gifts she wants or things she would like to do. Has she mentioned any movies she wanted to see or a restaurant she wanted to try?
The more sentimental the gift, the more your love will see how special she is to you, Hegeman said.
The problem that sometimes happens in relationships is that women ask for flowers or to go out on a date and the men think that because the woman asked them to do it, it will not be romantic, she said.
“Women do like romantic gestures, but it doesn’t have to be expensive,” Hegeman continued.
Not only will she be impressed that you knew just what to get; she will love the fact that you were listening to her, she said
Men often express their love for women by doing something for them, such as fixing stuff around the house, Hegeman said.
“For women, they want to hear the words, ‘I love you’ or ‘Your hair looks nice,’” Hegeman said.
If you are unsure and want to give her a more generic gift, try giving her a gift certificate to one of her favorite stores or, of course, you can give her a card, a beautiful bouquet of flowers, jewelry, chocolate or a spa treatment.
Several local florists are offering bouquets they have already made up especially for Valentine’s Day, said Helen Leo of Coddington’s Florist. Or you could pick some of her favorite flowers out yourself and have the florist wrap the bouquet up for you, Leo continued.
Jewelry is also a classic and popular gift.
“For Valentine’s Day, anything heart-shaped is always big,” said Judy Baker, owner of Edward Teleky Jeweler in Oneonta.
She also said that she is always giving advice on what to get.
“A lot of the time the guys come in and they have no idea what she wants,” Baker said. “So I ask, ‘Does she like silver or gold? Does she wear earrings or necklaces?’”
This helps a man pick something he thinks his partner will like, she said.
When in doubt, Baker suggests men look to hot jewelry trends, such as the positive energy bangle bracelets that are popular. Anything with the woman’s birthstone is also a good choice, Baker said.
For many women, their other true love is chocolate. Eric Robbins, the chocolatier at Liberty Tree Chocolates in Oneonta, said subtle, rich flavors are what people are looking for on Valentine’s Day. Classics such as chocolate-covered strawberries and cherry cordials are popular flavors he predicts will sell well.
“I recommend any chocolate that goes with a glass of wine, like our port chocolate or our classic truffle,” he said. “That’s what people like for Valentine’s Day.”
Robbins also mentioned that dark chocolate is a popular choice. He recommends that if the relationship is new and you do not know her favorite kinds yet, just get a mixed variety of chocolate so there will be something she likes in there.
A day at the spa is a rejuvenating gift for many women because it gives them time to relax. Several spas offer package deals for women to get a combination of treatments, including a pedicure and a manicure or a facial and a massage.
Lindsey Metzker, the front desk associate at Karma, said a spa treatment is the perfect gift for a woman because, “It makes you feel good about yourself. It brings up your spirits.” All of their Valentine’s Day promotions include champagne and chocolate, Metzker said.
“We also offer an aromatherapy couples’ massage,” Metzker said. “It’s a good chance for couples to be pampered and get away for a bit.”
Hegeman said the best kind of gift to get your partner is something you can enjoy together, such as tickets to a show you both like or dinner at restaurant you both want to try.
If you cannot afford to spend a lot of money, you can still give a very romantic gesture. You could make your love a special card and a candlelit dinner. Not a cook? You could print out a picture of the two of you and put it in a frame on her nightstand.
It is not necessary to buy something expensive to tell her how much you care. Be creative and take a day to celebrate the love you have for your partner.$17.3B Amount the National Retail Federation expect Americans to spend on Valentine's Day this year ____ $108.38 Average amount men will spend, according to NRF survey $49.41 Average amount women will spend, according to NRF survey