Well, to make all this simpler — it’s always a good thing to do the kind thing, regardless of how you might fell. A good word is “congeniality” — having a pleasant disposition, friendly and sociable. (I try to use all that for a goal.) Wouldn’t that type of person attract people to be friendly?
Awhile ago I read an interesting article on “True Friends” and there was an experience related by a young person who had a self-sacrificing friend. It sounded too good to be true … but it was true, and can be.
Two young girls had been looking forward to attending a beautiful wedding along with all the hoopla. They had been planning on going for some time but when the date approached the young person’s mother had died and her memorial service was to be on the exact same wedding date. To her surprise the friend showed up at the memorial service to give her emotional support instead of going to the wedding. “I know she was a true friend,” she related.
That said a lot because a true friend will “keep seeking, not his own advantage, but that of the other person” (1 Corinthians 10:24). Now that’s certainly a very caring and loving person with qualities that I, for one, endeavor to try to imitate regardless of the “sometime” adverse circumstances.
It’s so nice seeing long-lasting, sincere friendships through the years. People seem much happier when “giving” instead of always “wanting” — thinking of self: “Me, I, and my.”
You do reap what you sow or as our farmers would say, “What goes around comes around.” Isn’t that true?
Elaine W. Kniskern is a 80-year-old resident of Schenevus and a grandmother of five. She can reached at email@example.com. ‘Senior Scene’ columns can be found at www. thedailystar.com/seniorscene.