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August 17, 2013

Marion Shader

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---- — Marion Shader

ONEONTA — Marion Shader passed away Aug. 13, 2013, at her home with her family at her side.

She was born April 8, 1923, in Cooperstown, the daughter of Roy and Aline Sweet. Growing up in Otego, where her dad had a garage, they referred to her as, “That Sweet little Sweet Girl.”

She enjoyed camping, fishing and hunting with her dad as a young girl. After graduating from Otego School she attended Mildred Elley Business School in Albany.

She worked in Cooperstown for Attorney Orange L. Van Horne as a legal secretary.

It was in Cooperstown that she met her husband of 69 years, Chuck Shader. She would say, “I ran just fast enough so Chuck could catch me.” They were married May 21, 1944. Marion devoted her life from then on to Chuck and their family, which followed years later.

At any given moment, Marion would be making cookies or her famous homemade bread. In Marion’s heart her only purpose was to make sure everyone in her family was happy, healthy, safe and loved unconditionally.

She taught her children to drive and was courageous enough to carry that tradition on to her grandchildren. You would find her on many a dirt road simply saying, “Go wherever you want as long as it’s dirt.” And they did.

Often you would see her crossword puzzle in hand, almost always done completely. She enjoyed her friends so much and was such a gentle soul.

Marion loved speed — which probably to many who knew her this will come as a surprise. On one occasion, she took her dad’s ‘59 Olds on I-88 for a spin reaching 97 mph before coming to a curve. She always said she regretted not going that extra three to reach 100.

In 2002, she with the help of her son, Mike found a 1923 Buick touring car which she enjoyed showing at the car shows with her son, Mike and husband, Chuck. She had to have that car because it was built the year she was born.

She was one of few lucky enough to fly on the Goodyear Blimp and spent many hours next to Chuck in small planes that he flew when they were young. The last years of her husbands’ career, she visited most of the free world with him. Later years while watching the Travel Channel, she would say with a smile, “I was there.”

Marion and Chuck loved to dance. They would travel to Big Band dances and cleared the floor. It was like watching them dance on clouds which we know in our hearts they are doing now.

Marion was a lifelong member of the First United Methodist Church in Oneonta where she taught Sunday school and was a member of the Mary Circle. In later years, she would be found every Friday without fail chopping onions for Saturday’s Bread.

Marion loved her holidays. Thanksgiving dinner with her famous red and green salads, had apples, celery, walnuts or pineapple all perfectly chopped. One Thanksgiving, her son, Mike supplied the family turkey. At the table her comment to him was, “Good bird, Turkey.” She had such a way with words and from time to time her own vocabulary. She always wanted to make sure everyone was “sufficiently suffonsified.”

Christmas was especially important to Marion. Christmas breakfast with her Christmas eggs, English muffins, hash, orange juice and an assortment of jams was the most important day of the year to her and the entire family. This tradition will carry on in memory of her!

She was the perfect wife, mom, ‘gramma, ‘gammie, great-grandma, great-great-grandma and best girlfriend there was.

She was predeceased by her husband of 69 years, Charles Shader.

Surviving are her son, Michael Shader and wife Deborah; daughter, Jo Bordinger and husband Morry; five grandchildren, Patrick O’Kelly and wife Jamie, Michael Bordinger-Lutz and husband Michael, Charles Bordinger, Samantha Ballard and husband Jason, Maureen Shader and husband Zac La Fratta; 10 great-grandchildren, Anthony, Clinton, Cali, Druzianna, Skylah, Meghan, Garrett, Maxton John, Lilian and Clark; and one great-great-grandchild, Oskar.

Affectionately known as Graham Cracker, she will be greatly missed by her family but we know she is dancing the light fantastic with her husband, Chuck.

Calling hours will be from 6 to 8 p.m. Monday, Aug. 19, at the Bookhout Funeral Home, 357 Main St., Oneonta.

Funeral services will be at 2 p.m. Tuesday, Aug. 20, 2013, at the First United Methodist Church, 66 Chestnut St., Oneonta with the Rev. Teressa Sivers officiating. Burial will follow in the Oneonta Plains Cemetery.

Memorial donations may be made to either Saturday’s Bread, 66 Chestnut St., Oneonta, NY 13820 or Catskill Area Hospice & Palliative Care, 1 Birchwood Drive, Oneonta, NY 13820, in loving memory of Marion Shader.

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Funeral arrangements are by the Bookhout Funeral Home of Oneonta.