A lot of the time, this can happen to people after things such breakups, where it’s possible that people may have placed all of their well-being in one basket. They may be left wondering where their friends are after they declined every invitation to gatherings offered to them and then finding out they wouldn’t live their dream to to live in Greenland with three kids, a mansion, all while going gangbusters working a job as an astronaut while the wife is the new JK Rowling.
They’re left alone, away from the person they once confided in with everything, and confused as to how to live not as a piece of a conglomerate, but as an individual.
For this reason, in all honesty, it’s OK to be a little “selfish” with yourself, because sometimes you’re all you’ve got. You should never live within any sort of “high school marriage” in which you spend nearly all of your time with your mate and push friends away, because at that point, you’re playing all-or-nothing with the relationship. This is volatile and almost guaranteed to have an expiration date, due to the state of high school-aged life as a “transition period” for teenagers becoming adults, doing things like going to college and whatnot.
You should never feel as if you need a mate. In fact, you should love your life before you chase after a love life. Otherwise you’ll never get to focus on what really matters during this stage of life, like shaping our futures with hard work in school, finding our passion to project into a future career, and finding out who we are as people, which is far more important than finding out who we can be when with another person.