I doubt when people make New Year’s resolutions to “enjoy life more” they don’t mean that they want more pain so that they can be joyful. What they really mean is “I want to take advantage of every opportunity and not miss out on good times.” Am I right? So that should be their New Year’s resolution, otherwise it’s a lie.
My philosophy is that you should make a New Year’s resolution, yes, but use it as a goal, not a strict and rigid law that you have to follow. Say “I will try to be nicer this year,” instead of “I will be nice to everybody.” Try “I will try to see good in every situation,” instead of “I will enjoy everything.”
Try to make your resolutions things that will make you a better person. Trying to see good in every situation, when done enough, will become a habit. By doing that you become joyful. People prefer to be around a joyful person rather than a complainer. By trying to be nicer, that puts you in the right mind-set to be a nice person. Your more realistic goal of nicer may lead you right to the rule resolution of nice.
Think about this for next year. Or pretend it New Year’s Eve again and make a new resolution. One that will last a little (or a lot) longer.
Miriam A. Thurber is a sophomore at Unatego Central School. ‘Teen Talk’ columns can be found at www.thedailystar.com/teentalk.